Living inside-out
I met a guy in Second Life last night. He sent a message on a group chat, asking how he could hook up with a cute twenty - something gal for a "date". Being a newbie, he had no idea what a pain it would be for anybody to accompany a total novice to a popular (i.e. laggy) sim for any reason, let alone romance. But his main problem was his blank profile. I asked him, what do you bring to the table? Why would anybody want to know you. The group was divided. Some tried to help, suggesting places for a date, places to meet girls etc. Others picked up on the central problem, which was a guy shopping for a mate like he was buying a car. Connecting in life is about what you can offer , not what others have to offer you . Every Christian child should learn this at his/her mother's knee (not many do). But it makes sense. If you live your life within the boundaries of what folks are willing to give you (much less than wh...